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Tuesday, August 16, 2016

Rishi Raj Singh wasn't joking or being over zealous


Mr.Rishi Raj  Singh was addressing a group of people at an event in Kochi about women’s safety when he made the statement which provoked such social media reactions/internet trolls & jokes. (Source of his statement is this report "Stare at a woman for more than 14 second and you might be in trouble: Kerala bureaucrat")
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You must have come across jokes like this today all over the internet, but this is NOT A JOKE AT ALL, please read on....
പതിനാല് സെക്കന്ഡ് ആരെങ്കിലും നോക്കിനിന്നതായി പെണ്കുട്ടി പരാതിപ്പെട്ടാല്കേസെടുക്കാം; ഋഷിരാജ് സിങ്.. അപ്പോ സാറേ ഞങ്ങ വായിനോക്കികൾക്കു ചില സംശയങ്ങ ഉണ്ട്.... ചോദിക്കട്ടെ... 1, പതിനാലു സെക്കൻഡ് തന്നെ നോക്കിയോ എന്നറിയാനായി പെൺകുട്ടിയും തിരിച്ചു നോക്കുന്നുണ്ടാവില്ലേ? അപ്പൊ കേസ് എങ്ങനെ വരും സാറേ? 2, കോങ്കണ്ണ് ഉള്ളവർക്ക് ഡിസ്കൗണ്ട് ഉണ്ടോ സാറേ? 3, പതിമൂന്നു സെക്കൻഡ് നോക്കിയിട്ടു ഒന്ന് കണ്ണടച്ചിട്ടു വീണ്ടും പതിമൂന്നു സെക്കൻഡ് നോക്കുന്നതിനു കുഴപ്പമുണ്ടോ? അങ്ങനെ ഒരിക്കലും പതിനാലു സെക്കൻഡ് ആകാതെ നോക്കിയാ മതിയോ? അപ്പൊ കേസ് എങ്ങനെയാവും സാറേ? 4, കൂളിംഗ് ഗ്ളാസ് വെച്ചു നോക്കുന്നതിനു കുഴപ്പമുണ്ടോ സാറേ? 5, ഇനി മുത പെണ്ണ് കാണാ പോകുമ്പോ ഓരോ പതിമൂന്നു സെക്കൻഡ് ആകുന്നതിനു മുന്നേ മുന്നറിയിപ്പ് തരാ ബ്രോക്കറെ ർപ്പെടുത്തുന്നതിന് കുഴപ്പമുണ്ടോ സാറേ? 6, പതിനാലു സെക്കൻഡ് എന്നുള്ളത് മുപ്പതു സെക്കൻഡാക്കി തരാ പറ്റുമോ സാറേ...കാരണം ഇന്നത്തെ കാലത്തു ആണോ പെണ്ണോ എന്ന് തിരിച്ചറിയാ തന്നെ 5 സെക്കൻഡ് വേണം. ലക്ഷോപലക്ഷം വായിനോക്കികളായ ആണുങ്ങളുടെ ആശങ്കക ഉട തന്നെ പരിഹരിച്ചു തരണമെന്ന് വിനീതമായി അപേക്ഷിക്കുന്നു...  

Rishiraj Singh's statement that if a man stares at a woman for more than 14 seconds he can land in jail, has irked people across the country and has set the Internet buzzing with reactions."- http://indianexpress.com/article/trending/trending-in-india/keralas-excise-commissioner-states-absurd-14-second-stare-law-and-social-media-is-going-haywire-2978053/ ).


But this is serious stuff actually!.
Right now this “crime” of looking/staring at women(in public places, office, transport systems, etc.,.) is already covered in the amended criminal laws related sexual violence against women, vide recommendations by Justice Verma committee(http://www.thehindu.com/news/resources/full-text-of-justice-vermas-report-pdf/article4339457.ece) .
 
This is also kind of a the precursor of the proposed "Protection of privacy and dignity of women bill- 2013, Kerala - in short PDWA".
 
. Excerpt: The state government will put forth a bill demanding death penalty for culprits causing the death of a woman through rape, harassment or other such offences listed in the Indian Penal Code. The draft Kerala Protection of Privacy and Dignity of Women Bill, 2013, will be brought out soon. Even though the state government had taken steps to bring in the law against atrocities on women much earlier, the need for such a law got strengthened in the wake of Delhi gang rape case. Section 5 of the proposed bill states that if a women commits suicide and if its established that soon before her death she was subjected to harassment or that any offences have been committed against her under sections 294 (obscene act in public places); 354 (intention to outrage the modesty of a woman); 375 (rape); or 509 ( gestures, words and so on intended to hurt the dignity of a woman) of the Indian Penal Code, such death shall be deemed to be death caused by harassment unless it is proved otherwise. Section 3 prohibits harassment of women in any place, including cyberspace. The punishment for harassment will be imprisonment for a term which shall not be less than seven years, but may extend to imprisonment for life and with fine. Section 4(b) says punishment for harassment leading to death includes life imprisonment with fine, besides the death penalty, while Section 14 ensures privacy during trial by making it mandatory to hold it in-camera.
 
 
Excerpt from a news item about the proposed PDWA, Kerala bill(full text of the bill is here: http://niyamasabha.org/bills/13kla/published/183-pub-eng.pdf): The state government will put forth a bill demanding death penalty for culprits causing the death of a woman through rape, harassment or other such offences listed in the Indian Penal Code. The draft Kerala Protection of Privacy and Dignity of Women Bill, 2013, will be brought out soon. Even though the state government had taken steps to bring in the law against atrocities on women much earlier, the need for such a law got strengthened in the wake of Delhi gang rape case.
 
Section 5 of the proposed bill states that if a women commits suicide and if its established that soon before her death she was subjected to harassment or that any offences have been committed against her under Indian penal code sections IPC sec.294 (obscene act in public places); IPC sec.354 (intention to outrage the modesty of a woman); IPC sec.375 (rape); or IPC sec.509 ( gestures, words and so on intended to hurt the dignity of a woman) of the Indian Penal Code, such death shall be deemed to be death caused by harassment unless it is proved otherwise.
 
Section 3 prohibits harassment of women in any place, including cyberspace. The punishment for harassment will be imprisonment for a term which shall not be less than seven years, but may extend to imprisonment for life and with fine. Section 4(b) says punishment for harassment leading to death includes life imprisonment with fine, besides the death penalty, while Section 14 ensures privacy during trial by making it mandatory to hold it in-camera
 
Source of Rishi Raj Singh’s statement  . Excerpt: Supreme Court lawyer K V Dhananjaya who spoke to India Today about the incident called it a “mindless” statement to make. “There is no such provision in any law of this country and there cannot be such a mindless provision of law in any other country of the world. Period.” ............... Now we know how stupid even Supreme lawyers can be!.... there are already various sections of IPC which covers this "crime"(IPC sections 354 and 509 as explained above) .....it's a set of central criminal laws that the SC lawyer is unaware of!!!...
 
.....well most us are unaware of this!!!, we better get vigilant and act to protect our rights, our male relatives(including own sons) and friends' rights, else we may find ourselves/our dear ones in such framed and false cases soon!!!.

PPS: It's actually left to the "feeling" or "discretion" of the "victim" of the alleged "#stare rape", so it need not be even 14 seconds!!!.. 

The text of all these laws and government orders clearly mention this, in addition to this the victim isn't required to submit any evidence with such allegations, the proceedings will happen secretly, media is not allowed report the victim's name, so with nothing to loose this is going to be the next best weapon fit for misuse for wrecking vengeance and for demanding ransoms, etc.,......  So ... enjoy guys...  It's show time

Sexual violence against women: related IPC sections



509. Word, gesture or act(even a 1 second look or the absence of a desired look!) intended to insult the modesty of a woman.—Whoever, intending to insult the modesty of any woman, utters any word, makes any sound or gesture, or exhibits any object, intending that such word or sound shall be heard, or that such gesture or object shall be seen, by such woman, or intrudes upon the privacy of such woman, shall be punished with simple imprisonment for a term which may extend to one year, or with fine, or with both.


354. Assault or criminal force to woman with intent to outrage her modesty.—Whoever assaults or uses criminal force to any woman, intending to outrage or knowing it to be likely that he will thereby outrage her modesty, shall be punished with impris­onment of either description for a term which may extend to two years, or with fine, or with both.
267 [294. Obscene acts and songs.—Whoever, to the annoyance of others—
(a) does any obscene act in any public place, or
(b) sings, recites or utters any obscene song, ballad or words, in or near any public place, shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to three months, or with fine, or with both.]

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Father's Day - DADDY CONFESSIONS!

Original Post: http://epaperbeta.timesofindia.com/Article.aspx?eid=31811&articlexml=Fathers-Day-DADDY-CONFESSIONS-15062014353034
Father's Day - DADDY CONFESSIONS!
Jun 15 2014 : The Times of India (Kochi)

On Father's Day, two dads with different fathering styles tell us why being a dad is the most important job in the world
7 PARENTING HACKS FOR A BUSY DAD Fatherhood is hard, and you are busy. You work to secure your child's future by earning enough money. But you realise deep inside that it's not enough to just earn money for your child.
You have to spend time with them ­ make them understand that you are not just an ATM machine, but someone they can look up to as a guide, and a friend ­ a real dad.As a new age parent, you are expected to participate actively in raising your child. You can't just leave it to your wife, can you? That sort of retrograde thinking is out. The fact is that your wife might also be working, or even if she is not, we know that taking care of the home is more than a full-time job. The fact is that equitable distribution of parenting duties is what separates us from Neanderthal mentalities. Engaging your child while reading the newspaper: You know the one thing you look forward to on a Sunday morning? Well two things really ­ your morning cuppa, and the newspaper. But the little tyke has other ideas. He wants you to read his favourite story to him. On a Sunday morning! I discovered a nice compromise. I read the newspaper to my daughter. Not the dismal, sad bits of course, but some of the articles that would be of interest. Sometimes I pick up an article about a new scientific discovery and read it to her. Sometimes I read to her from a travel section, with descriptions of beautiful destinations. The point is my newspaper reading time is converted into a great time spent with my daughter.
Watching a movie with your child while working: It's evening, and you have just come home after a tiring day. Worse still, you have brought work home. Your kid wants to watch that animated movie AGAIN with you. Well, I do both. It requires a bit of physical place setting. Sit a little behind your kid as he/she watches the movie. This way your child feels you are part of the experience, and you can work away at that Blackberry or laptop too. Don't worry about being caught. Once the movie starts, kids are too engrossed in it. Get your work done, and share an experience with your child at the same time.
Exercising with your child as a part of that busy schedule: Since you are a dad to a kid, you know that kids love going out. Anywhere. And therefore they are an excellent excuse for you to get some exercise. Have you ever wasted money on a gym membership? I have. Do you have a treadmill in your house that you dry towels on? I do. I take my child to the local park weekend mornings. Once she is there, she is so hap py running around on the grass and befriending other kids that she can pretty much be left alone while I take brisk walks around the jogging path, all the while keeping an eye on her. It really is a win-win for us.
Doing homework together while answering those emails: One of the best ways I have found to spend time with my kid is to sit with her and do homework together! What is important to me is that my daughter feels close to me when I sit next to her and help her out with her homework intermittently. Another way in which I can get some time to get my own work done is to give my daughter a set of tasks to be done in say, 30 minutes. While she is working on her tasks, I can work on mine. At the end of 30 minutes, I shut my computer and then we go through her work together and have a lot of fun. Again, both of us get what we want.
Sometimes, just ditch the work! There is no work in the world that really compares in value and a sense of accomplishment than the time you spend with your children. Unfortunately, our bloated sense of self-worth makes us feel that our companies will shut down if we don't write that email or complete that presentation. Nothing at work is so important that you have to sacrifice spending time with your children, even on a weekend. Relax, laugh, play with your child, and be rewarded with a lifetime of experiences that no job will ever be able to provide. Sometimes, the best parenting hack is just to be a parent.
Shantanu Bhattacharya is a father to an eight-year-old girl. Apart from working as a director of content design and development in a multinational, he also writes and blogs on being a dad. 7 CONFESSIONS OF A STAY-AT-HOME DAD Being a stay-at-home dad is far more taxing than I imagined, when I quit my job to begin caring for our kids. I'm tired almost all the time. Even after 14 years of practice, I am terrible at folding the laundry.
My heart is more open than it was before I was a stay-at-home parent. My family's struggles, victories and love affect me more deeply than they would have if I were away at a job.
I know that some men discount what I do and judge me, but it does not bother me.
I can't believe that I'm admitting this but it hurts my feelings when my family doesn't like what I cook for them.
I respect my wife's sacrifice as our breadwinner and I genuinely mourn the fact that my having this experience with our children means that she can not. I happily have put my personal goals aside and see raising our chil dren and helping them to grow into fine adults as my life's work, but sometimes, I daydream about what I'll do when they move out.
Nurturing kids is like giving and examination every day and while I don't always pass the test, I never stop trying.
Not giving up is the greatest gift a parent has to offer. Nothing brings me more joy than watching our children evolve.
Mothers are the centre of everything. They hold families together, make tough decisions and are a constant source of comfort and love. Being a stay-at-home dad taught me that.
Scott Benner is a stay-at-home parent to two children, since the past 14 years.
He is the author of Laundry Is Eternal: Confessions of a Stay-At-Home Dad, and is also a type I diabetes advocate since his daughter was diagnosed with diabetes at the age of two.
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Thursday, May 16, 2013

A (imperialistically)beautiful mind: Conquer, plunder, set fire and then lament about the sorry state of affairs!


Gist: After killing 100 rats, the cat goes for Haj!!! or "Sau chooha maarke billi haj ko chali!!! (paraphrasing a hindi saying)

Hi All,

 These are the same guys(Britishers) who cunningly found a way to demolish the bedrock of Indian supremacy... right back in 1835, Lord Macaulay remarked after travelling extensively across India that to subjugate India completely, britishers need to find ways to demolish our very backbone.... our spiritual and cultural heritage, so that they can replace our superior educational system, culture, values and family system, with English educational system and everything else english!.

And here Sir Winston Churchill is lamenting that India will turn into shambles if they leave India to its own.... after ruthlessly and consciously masterminding a planned and comprehensive anarchy and corruption in this country before hand(Lord Macaulay's above remark was made to the English parliament in 1835, see this link for the original scanned image reporting this(towards the bottom of this link) : http://at498a.blogspot.in/2010/02/economic-terrorism-and-its-family.html)

This is not an attempt to justify our present state of existence, this is just to put things in a better perspective... britishers were imperialistic power-mongers who lived and thrived by plundering nations after subjugating them, who employed all kind of sleight and deceit like the very successful "divide and rule" strategy to further their objectives. In the process they always left/quit the countries they used to rule upon... broken and in shambles, and preferably after creating a permanent source of disruption ... like how they masterminded the Indo-Pak division!, with a clear objective that both these countries they quit should never be able to  prosper as they can run wedges between them for a long long time even after they quit(those who have studied the clever 'wedges' they have driven into our internal structure would realise this very easily).

All Imperialists are just a bit more sophisticated than the barbarian armies of the past, who conquered, plundered and then set fire to lands they conquered, and made sure that they drove a final heart-wrenching 'wedge' into the very psyches of the conquered people, like raping the women of the conquered land, so that the men of the land feel so miserable that even after many many generations they as a society have this trauma fresh in their minds!!!. 

We are talking about the same barbarians, now in shiny coats and boots... so take all what they dish out... with a pinch of salt!... if at all u r unable to reject it outright, for what they are really worth. 

NB: Don't forget to read http://at498a.blogspot.in/2010/02/economic-terrorism-and-its-family.html to get a perspective of what is the main cause of India's maladies. Then it was the british, now its the USA... very long back it was the Barbarians.... just change of clothes, character is the same!... watch out for these parasites, for good.

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From: Sajith
Sent: Thursday, May 16, 2013 10:22 AM
Subject: Winston Churchill's argument against Independence for India




Churchill predicted about India 66 years ago.. and now the kind of corrupt politicians from the Central to State to the village/city councilmen, and the Govt officers in every level through out the country,  
Churchill's prediction came 100% Right.   

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_did_Winston_Churchill_think_about_India%27s_freedom#page3
Winston Churchill in Parliament for India Independence. When Mr. Clement Attlee, Prime Minister of United Kingdom, in June 1947, introduced the Indian Independence Act in the British Parliament, Sir Winston Churchill, argued against:-

"Power will go to the hands of rascals, rogues, freebooters; all Indian leaders will be of low caliber & men of straw. They will have sweet tongues & silly hearts. They will fight amongst themselves for power & India will be lost in political squabbles. A day would come when even air & water... would be taxed in India.  "

Saturday, March 31, 2012

The Sea of Life... so be it, so be it, so be it!

The Sea of Life...


A quiet gloom has gripped this country
Family the basic unit is under threat
Young work force withering away
Seniors with disturbed old age
Mothers and sisters distraught
Children having to play at courts and chowkies
Men living like toy soldiers, helpless and torn

Is this the India we had imagined when free
Is this the life we had set out for?
Is this fair that innocence should suffer
Is this what they say ... stuck between a rock and hard place!

Do we act now or let our children take the blows
Is it Now or Never?, is it going to be you and me or None?

People .. We're in the same boat On the same sea
No one is immune to this injustice
Its me today.... god forbid... but its gonna be everyone tomorrow

Can't be stuck like this for ever, can we?
Lets move whatever is in our power, can we?
Lets do what we ought to do ... stand up for our rights
Its got to be me, you and everyone alive!
Alive... is a good stage to be... stay alive
Lest we be called corpses which lived a low-life
The one's who passed the bucked to us children
They did give us birth, but they were selfish
They didn't care for us, all they wanted was to live
Live a life of false dreams and egos

Lets not let this happen, lets not wilt away in silence
Lets pick up the tab, and pay it NOW, and HERE.

For we're in the same boat On the same sea
And we ought not to be
...... stuck between a ROCK and a HARD PLACE
..... never ever ..... Agnipath ... Agnipath ... Agnipath!
.... path of fire which leads to some happy place
If that's the way we have to take, so be it, so be it, so be it......



Simple pleasures of life ... Fathers of Orphans

Simple pleasures of life ....




Repressed waters of sad longings
Men who don't cry carry
Counting on his countless hopes and few blessings
Trudges through the jungle called life
Can he carry on alone, ridiculed as loveless
Will he be able to express his pain and dreams
Of simple pleasures of life, like holding his children
Playing with them, showing them this wild wild world
Being there for them, as only he can
May be there's a sunrise which changes all this sadness
May be a few sons should rise, rise above this tyranny
Rise so that life can carry on as we know
Simple pleasures of life..... are coveted, those are the most coveted of them all.


As some live as fathers of orphans!, helpless of being so.
Fathers of Orphans ..... denied of simple pleasures of life & a world denied of smiles